9 Toxic Relational Patterns You Keep Attracting
Why your neurocomplex mind keeps choosing chaos across friendships, work, family, and love—and what to do instead.
If you’re a neurocomplex adult (highly masked ADHDer, Autistic, gifted, or a combo), relationships can feel like navigating a maze designed for someone else. Your brain notices patterns, processes emotions intensely, and thrives on novelty and stimulation. These strengths are amazing—but they can also make certain types of people magnetically compelling, even when interactions are exhausting, inconsistent, or emotionally unavailable. This happens across friends, coworkers, collaborators, family, and partners.
Here’s a look at 9 toxic patterns that may keep appearing in your life, why the neurocomplex brain draws them in, and examples to recognize them.