“Let Them” Is Just Masking Rebranded
Mel Robbins says “Let Them.” But for the masked and misunderstood Neurocomplex, that’s not healing—it’s harm.
Mel Robbins’ now-viral mantra—“Let them.”—has taken over timelines, therapy speak, and self-help circles:
Let them judge you. Let them leave. Let them misunderstand you.
It reads like freedom. A clean release from the need to be liked, chosen, or understood. And for some—especially those stuck in cycles of codependency or over-explaining—it is a kind of liberation. Letting go can be healing.
But for those of us raised by emotionally minimalist parents, or shaped by late-understood neurocomplexity, it doesn’t feel revolutionary. It feels recycled.
Because we’ve heard this before—from parents and mentors who taught us that being misunderstood was part of being alive. That emotions were private burdens. That safety meant never needing too much.
“Let Them” is not empowerment. It’s inherited detachment—with a Canva filter.